You're not wrong. I understand people have different levels of anxiety, and its a truly awful feeling but there are other options to fight it. I've found exercising daily, even if it's working up a good sweat for 20 minutes greatly helps, especially if you get in a routine the endorphins build for months and help you get right. Eating a healthy diet especially Omega 3 fish aid the brain as well. I try to eat Salmon 2x per week for that reason. I believe Xanax and other pills make you more dependant and anxious in the situations that trigger you.
For those looking for an alternative, the amino acid L Theanine which is only found in mushrooms and green tea leaves has been found to have as good effects as Xanax on people's anxiety.
Life isn't easy, and I don't think there is a quick fix for anxiety issues, but if you focus on your health it goes a long way.