What I think most people who are just fans don't understand is that you have to establish a relationship with the coach. If you want access to practices, players, staff members and the like you have to 'play the game'.
That brings up the question for most all of us who don't write for the Ledger, the Post or AAP how should we handle ourselves in the post game. For me and most all of us it depends on the coach, both SHU's and the visitor's. As I noted with a coach like Cooley and a few others all questions are fair game as long as they are legitimate. With others, like a Boeheim for instance you have to choose your words carefully.
It's so easy from afar to say ask the tough questions but if you do so understand that you are jeopardizing your future access to the program.
In my case in particular I do not have the cache of a Carino, Zagoria or Brazillier as I am only someone who writes for a blog and thus that has to be taken into consideration.